Do it your way – A guide to DIY funeral planning

Funerals are by their very nature sad and sombre occasions. If you’ve ever returned home after attending a funeral feeling drained and empty, it’s worth remembering that it doesn’t have to be this way. A good funeral has the potential to do a lot of a good, but to create a truly memorable celebration of a life well lived, will require a lot of effort and hard work.

A DIY funeral can involve as much or as little input from a funeral professional as you want. However, if it’s important to you to be able to feel in complete control over the proceedings, you shouldn’t let others do for you what you’re able to do for yourself. When it’s all over, although there will still be grief and sadness, you’ll also be left with a real sense of achievement.

The direction that a DIY funeral will take is usually determined by whether you want a faith funeral. If the funeral is to have a religious element, a faith leader will often to be involved with the planning. Religious funeral ceremonies are based upon a fixed format which is known as a liturgy and whilst there is some room for personalisation within a religious funeral service, this will be limited.

In the early stages of funeral planning you’ll need to think about whether you want a funeral service or a memorial service. The person who has died is present at a funeral service whilst a memorial service is an event to commemorate the life of the deceased after the body has been buried or cremated. In some cases people decide to have a funeral service and a memorial service.

If you’re in the Leeds, UK area, then you can visit a Leeds funeral director with a difference, in the form of Full Circle Funerals who will be able to help you with all sorts of alternate ways to organise a funeral.

Leeds Funeral DirectorWhilst opting for a non-religious funeral service is a very personal choice, choosing a non-religious funeral offers the opportunity to do exactly as you like. A good DIY funeral is designed to be as individual and unique as the life of the deceased and this is one of the reasons why non-religious funerals are becoming increasingly popular.

Funerals are unusual as they are one of the few events which do not need the expertise of professionals to be a success. The whole idea of a DIY funeral is that it should be designed and carried out to suit the traditions, culture and customs of your family. There is no law to say that you have to follow convention; just do what you feel is right and the funeral will make a fitting tribute to the deceased.

It’s OK to inject an element of humour into a funeral and although jokes can’t or shouldn’t replace grief, an account of someone’s life if more than likely to include at least a couple of funny anecdotes. Happy memories will always make people smile so don’t be afraid of humour.

Non-religious funeral celebrants are now widely available throughout the UK and if you’d like someone to lead the funeral; you’ll need to find a celebrant who you feel you can work with. Get in touch with a few celebrants as this is the best way to find the one who’s most suitable and don’t forget that you’re in charge.


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